What would they think! What would they say!
We all have been there when we wanted to do something but had to let it go because people might think wrong about us. No one likes to admit it but happens more often than you think.
It is understandable why is it our nature to care. If people think bad about you. They will talk bad about you to other people and you will end up having a bad reputation. Bad doesn’t always mean badass. Just a bad reputation.
What if there was a way for you to know what people think or say about you when you’re not around. Let’s say you have it for one day, the superpower to hear them. It will make you crazy to know you have done everything right but still, people talk bad about you. You will hear and try to do it their way but there is always going to be someone defaming you.
After the superpower experience, you will realize the best option is to ignore it. But embarrassment is a very strong emotion, not easy to let go of.
If you can go to a park and take off your clothes, walk into the fountain and enjoy the moment until you get arrested. If you can do it then definitely you’re the kind of person who doesn’t give a sh it about what they think.
But are you? Because I’m not. Not at this point.
There are many sorts of things people may be embarrassed about. Examples, the shape of your body, weird accent, being with someone you love in public, getting a tattoo that says “Spank me”, talking to yourself and so on.
In the first category, your body figure or accent is worth improving. In the second category, things like getting a dumb tattoo or buying a parrot colour car are worth dropping.
But when you’re done improving and dropping, there are things that are important. Things that mean something. Things that make you happy. For example, laughing like a crazy person after watching a funny video.
There is another category that includes serious issues that might make you embarrassed. For instance, a poor person at the gathering of rich people, being a porn star, being gay, being transgender and accepting it in public.
“Never be ashamed of being yourself.”
There are other confusing topics, like pleasure. Expressing love to someone way older or younger than you. Public humiliation by submissive experience. Private things that usually come out. Back to the tattoo that says “Spank me”. Well, ask yourself if it’s worth it and how far are you willing to go? If the answer is “Hell yeah!”. Keep going add them to the list of things that makes you happy and prepare to face the consequences.
Now you know embarrassment is just a liability. It affects your life in a negative way. The hesitation that comes from “what they think” will take away your confidence. And it will lead you to lose so many opportunities and make you become a failure.
The reality is, that no one cares about what you do. They just comment or talk because it is our human nature. They won’t just talk bad, they will also talk good about you only when they see your perspective. That is a rare quality and very few people have it.
I’m not only talking about other people, even I talk about people and things that are happening around me. Sometimes my opinion of them is good, sometimes bad. But that’s just what it is, my opinion.
Don’t underestimate these foolish emotions. There are stronger than your mindset. They build your habits and control your actions in daily life.
Learn to control your emotions. When you feel like something will embarrass you. Do it and go as far as you can. “Spinning the pen”, the trick you’ve learned to show off to your friends. Even if the pen drops a few times. Don’t react, pick it up and keep going. Embarrassed yourself on the stage speaking in public. Never wait for them to react. Pick it up where it drops and keep going until you get it right.
Mostly we make mistakes when we think of “what would they think”. If you stop caring, you will live a great life. Outside the box.
At last, a trick I’m going to tell you. Works as often as less as you do it. Whenever the embarrassment is about to hit you.
Remember,
“100 years from this moment, all these people laughing at me, will not exist. Neither will I. So why would I care?”
